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Five Ways To Have Better Sex
Nov
Five Ways To Have Better Sex…
Who doesn’t want to have better sex!
If you could have better sex, and create a stronger connection with you partner, would you do it?
It may not be as complicated as you think, if you’re open to it, and can set aside your ego for the greater good…meaning your sex life.
I’m going to tell you five ways to have better sex, so pay attention.
1. Confidence
Have you ever wondered what you really look like, while over compensating for your lack of confidence and self-esteeem?
The first thing you will need is confidence. And no, I’m not talking about arrogance, and the false sense of security your ego creates to mask your lack of confidence. I’m talking about pure confidence.
I’m talking about you knowing yourself fully, and all that comes with that.
Most people, especially men, appear to be confident, but that outward appearance is just a mask to cover up their lack of confidence. What ends up happening then, is they over compensate, and end up looking like douchebags.
When this happens, these same guys attract women who are also lacking confidence and self-esteem, and then these women make poor choices as well. All because neither of them had pure confidence.
Pure confidence comes from knowing yourself on a deeper level. It comes from doing the deeper inner work, and exploring your behavior, your past, your choices, your beliefs, and pretty much everything you think is true. Pure confidence doesn’t have to be proven, it’s just experienced. It’s a way of being so to speak.
So, if you’re still trying to prove anything, especially that you’re good in bed, just know your ego is still showing up, since you still lack confidence.
One of the ways your ego feels important, is by creating this false since of significance. The ego try’s to prove its value and worth, and by doing so, creates a behavior that makes you look like a douche.
And even though your “homies”, or your partner, may not have the courage to tell you this, you do look like a douche when you allow your ego to show up.
Johnson Boost can help you regain your confidence physically, but the mental game is all about you putting in the work, and going deep.
2. Presence
Have you ever whacked your thumb with a hammer, yelled profanities and felt how badly your thumb feels after whacking it?
That most likely happened because you weren’t being present. #lessonlearned
The single greatest gift that you can give someone, especially your partner, is the gift of being present. And this is especially the case when it comes to being intimate.
With so many distractions in the world, which keep people from being present with one another, there’s no wonder why so many relationships fail, are boring, lack passion and enthusiasm, or just simply exist out of convenience. Largely because people aren’t present with one another.
If you’re someone who can’t give your full attention to someone, especially during those intimate moments, you’ll never fully experience your partner, and your sex life will never be extraordinary.
I’ll even tell you that your ego is involved when this happens, which means you haven’t listened to what I said above about confidence.
Being present is about connection. It’s about giving all your focus and energy to the present moment. It’s not about thinking what happened in the past, whether that be five minutes prior, or five years prior. Being present is not about thinking five minutes (or thirty seconds for some of you) into the future, once you are done satisfying yourself.
Being present, is telling your partner, that they are what’s most important in the moment, without saying a word.
Your behavior and your actions, will tell a much more truthful story, than anything you can say.
If you want to have better sex, learn to be present, and give your partner what they deserve.
3. Take It Slow
How good does your car look when you do a quick wash on it, and don’t take the time to focus on the details? How good of a job do you get, when you’re too cheap to buy the premium wash?
Now think about when it comes to your sex life.
How good can the sex really be when you rush it, don’t focus on the details, and are too cheap (with your time and attention), to do a premium job?
And yes, a “quickie” is nice every once in a while, but that can’t be the “norm” if you truly want to experience better sex with your partner.
Creating a better sexual experience with your partner takes time. It’s like a fine wine.
It’s sort of like the story of the tortoise and the hare, and how the tortoise won the race for taking it slow. Moral of that story, don’t be the hare, especially when it comes to your sex life.
I mentioned above how important it is to be present when it comes to having a better sex life, and one of the ways to accomplish that is by taking it slow. And when I say “it”, I mean the whole sexual experience.
Feel every movement. Hear every sound. Watch every reaction your partner makes.
How can you fully please your partner if you aren’t paying attention?
How do you expect to feel a deeper connection if you’re running a sprint, when you should be taking a slow stroll, taking in all the scenery.
If you would slow down, be more present to your partner, and show them a sense of confidence (not arrogance), your sex life will blast off to whole new levels of satisfaction…for you both.
4. Don’t Be Selfish
Have you ever lit the fuse of a firecracker, and the damn thing caught fire so fast, that you barely had time to run away before it exploded?
That’s you when you’re being selfish! Don’t be a firecracker.
You get all revved up, and thirty seconds later you’re gasping for air, all while your partner is lying there, wondering when it’s their turn to explode.
Does that sound like great sex to you? If I asked your partner, would they say it was great sex?
Let’s face it, most guys can get off with a slight breeze hitting their pecker. But for women, it takes much more for them.
Most women need to feel some sort of emotional connection before feeling any sort of connection. Yes, there are exceptions to every “rule”, but for many women, this is true.
Women need men to pay attention to them during intercourse. They need foreplay. They need you to take more time than your usual thirty seconds you give them.
So, before you allow your rocket to blast off, give her what she desires first. Put your partner first, and satisfy her every desire, sexually and emotionally. When you do that, she’ll help you blast off to new levels of intimacy as well. Even if your mission only last a few seconds.
5. Be Open
Have you ever had your partner suggest to you, that they wanted you to wear a totally different style that you are used to wearing? At first your insecurities resist the idea, but then you finally give in, and you realize that you actually enjoy the new look.
Sex can be the same way.
The thought of trying something new may feel uncomfortable at first; however, once you try it, you may actually find it enjoyable. And it doesn’t have to be something “weird” either.
Guys have been conditioned for centuries to behave a certain way, and because of those limitations, there are guys who never enjoy a fulfilling sex life. Instead, they allow their insecurities to get in the way of being free, and they miss out on an amazing sex life, and also miss out on pleasing their partners fully.
Don’t let that happen to you.
Embrace the idea of exploring with your partner. Create a space where the both of you can express each other’s desires, without feeing judged. Communicate openly with one another. Find out what feels good, and tell each other what you enjoy, and what you are willing to explore.
Communication shouldn’t be reserved only for topics that are outside the bedroom. Communication should definitely be part of your sexual relationship as well.
Don’t make it weird. Have fun and be silly if it makes it easier to communicate. Sex doesn’t always have to be serious.
Be open to expanding your current relationship with sex, and be willing to be uncomfortable talking about it, because that’s what allows you to have much better sex.
There shouldn’t be anything that can’t talk about with your partner when it comes to sex. Honor each other, and respect each other’s comfort level, and how much they are willing to explore. Again, don’t rush it. Instead, be mindful of your partner, and support them where they are.
Enjoy the journey, and happy exploring.
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